PoserDirect is Closing Down

Discussion in 'The Meadow' started by mrsparky, Aug 10, 2018.

  1. Alisa

    Alisa HW3D QAV Queen Bee Staff Member QAV-BEE

    And yes, MrSparky (PoserDirect) is male. Sparky (HiveWire CA / Philosopher's Egg) is female. Her name is just "Sparky" :)
  2. Stezza

    Stezza Extraordinary

    Or is Mrsparky really Mrs Parky... has anyone seen both in the same room together... mmmmmmmm :unsure: o_O :confused: :cool:

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  3. Miss B

    Miss B Drawing Life 1 Pixel at a Time CV-BEE

    Don't laugh Stezza, but I used to read it that way back in the day. ~LOL~
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  4. Alisa

    Alisa HW3D QAV Queen Bee Staff Member QAV-BEE

  5. eclark1894

    eclark1894 Distinguished

    I still feel weird about it though. I feel like I'm purposely creating a typo.
  6. mrsparky

    mrsparky Member

    Or is Mrsparky really Mrs Parky... has anyone seen both in the same room together... mmmmmmmm

    Knowing my luck this year that would happen if I used a chainsaw :)
  7. carmen indorato

    carmen indorato Extraordinary

    My condolences to all who have posted their loses here. Its a lot more difficult i think, when you lose them both within a very short time after having had them live with you for over 20 years. Yeah, I agree you do feel like an orphan especially when you have no family of your own to speak of to share the pain with and the healing process and all that quiet empty air after. Lost both within 8 months of each other. Never had a chance to mourn my dad because i was responsible to care for my mom until she went and a week after her my uncle who I was very close with. Most difficult 8 months of my miserable life.
  8. carmen indorato

    carmen indorato Extraordinary

    Nah no shrink. Just natural longing to have experienced. You know, if not for photos i have dating way back to when they were both young on my house walls, I have no memories of them...either one of them. I remember them from their last moments or days here and living. Older memories before they died just do not come to me unless i look at older photos. I had them cremated as they wished and their ashes are in beautiful urns over my TV set with nice gold framed photos beside them to remember them by. To some it might seem morbid or that I have created some sort of weird alter to their memory but for me it offers some comfort. Instead of having to go to cemetary to bring commemorative flowers, on B-days or in commemoration of their deaths I light a 7 day burning candle as my own way of keeping their their memory close. When alive I swore I wouldn't ever abandon them when alive or forget them when dead and i kept that promise and in some way feel better about myself for it.
    After a loved ones death none of the things we do are about them but about our individual "self" in dealing with it all.
  9. Seliah (Childe of Fyre)

    Seliah (Childe of Fyre) Running with the wolves. CV-BEE Contributing Artist

    Mr Sparky -

    I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. It sucks, and it's just never easy no matter what. Thank you SO much for all your work over the years; I have collected a lot of your content over the years. I did take advantage of the store offer on your website, and I'm in the process of saving everything. That's a very generous offer, and I'm going to miss your work. But I'm glad you aren't leaving the community completely.

    I don't have a ton of visitors to my site, I think - but I have way more actual space than I will ever be able to fill for storage and disk space. If you need the space, send me a note. I am MORE than willing to host whatever freebies you have that need a home. I host a few things from Unicornst back when she was active, and I have one of Jamminwolfie's freebies up there, and a whole bunch of Black Spartan's pose files are hosted as well, in addition to my own freebies. If you need space, let me know - I'd be happy to make a MrSparky page (or whatever you'd want to title it) for you under my Hosted category if you need somewhere to put them.

  10. eclark1894

    eclark1894 Distinguished

    I don't judge you, but yeah, in my own mind, I find keeping ashes around of a loved one somewhat creepy. But I scare easy and yes, I do believe in ghosts. So my plan for my own death is NO burial. I don't like cemetaries . Not even walking by them. I keep getting the feeling I'm being watched. I plan to be cremated, but no urns for me. My family can keep my ashes in a plastic bag until they take them to either the mountains or the ocean, I don't really have a preference, so I leave that up to them.
  11. carmen indorato

    carmen indorato Extraordinary

    Yeah my sister though she won't admit it, has only come to visit me at my home 5 times in the past 8 years after the deaths. I suspect for same reason, her daughter has refused to come at all....says it creeps her out! Too bad modern folks fear that aspect of life. If they are taught as kids not to fear it and accept it as an integral part of life's journey, it would be easier dealing with the concept of dying for the dying as well as the surviving family members. It is otherwise devastating. .
    Actually they put cremains in a plastic bag and then in a plain black plastic box with a lid for transport as part of the service. I chose tho put them in beautiful urns to make it look better in the apartment and the pretty framed photos beside them set them off.
    Since my sisters kids are so squeamish, I have already picked my urn to make it easier for whomever would have to take care of stuff when I am gone. When I go it will be in my will to spread all our family ashes together. I have been saving cash so my remaining family can take a road trip cross country to mourh in a more creative way and bond as they collectively spread a few hand-fulls here and there at some of the prettiest parks or sea views.
  12. eclark1894

    eclark1894 Distinguished

    Okay, well, just a suggestion, but if you want to see your sister and her kids more often, why not simply store the urns somewhere unseen and where they won't encounter them during their stay. You can always return them to their rightful place once your relatives leave.
  13. tparo

    tparo Brilliant QAV-BEE

    My Niece has some of my brothers ashes in a small glass vial made into a necklace, bit weird but I also kinda get it.
  14. eclark1894

    eclark1894 Distinguished

    I don't think I want anyone wearing me as an accessory.;)
    Although I do know that some people turn their loved ones cremated ashes into rings.
  15. carmen indorato

    carmen indorato Extraordinary

    If they come to see me it would be for me with all the drawbacks. If they can't , I say stay home. I also learned that it is better to be alone than in bad company.
    I can love someone and not like them at the same time and apparently they feel the same so why bother rearranging my home to suit them. I love her but no longer like her for many reasons. What pisses me off though is they expect me to go running when they need help with something but when I have needed help it is too much to ask. A guy has to have some self respect I think, don't you?
  16. carmen indorato

    carmen indorato Extraordinary

    must have really loved him. I thought my niece loved me but apparently not the same way yours does. Kinda sad really. I admire your niece!
  17. Hornet3d

    Hornet3d Distinguished

    Sadly it is true for many that they only really miss someone when they are gone and it is all too late. Both my wife and I have worked to getting her fully retired early, not only for the better lifestyle but also because her father is in his eighties and we are not sure how much time we have left. We spend as much time as we can at the moment and plan to spend much more when my wife gives up work for good.
  18. Terre

    Terre Distinguished

    I came across a similar idea recently. The ashes are part of a cross that the brother wears on a choker around his neck.
  19. mrsparky

    mrsparky Member

    Mum's wish was to be with her parents and brother, in a small rural 17th century church.

    Many friends and family said it was too expensive on top of everything else (UK funerals cost around 4K just for the basics).
    Which I understood, moreso as a burial would've been at least 8-10 grand, as the graveyard is a on a slope and the gravesite would've needed specialist diggers.

    Some even said just scatter the ashes over the churchyard wall! But my feeling is you gotta do what you think is right.
    If nothing else you can risk ending up haunting yourself with "what it's". So I arranged her ashes to be interred next to her brothers in the churches dedicated area. A sad, but in a way nice day, and worth the extra £300. Money which just seemed to appear without having to be overly worried about it, but I guess that's karma.
  20. mrsparky

    mrsparky Member

    BTW here's an update

    Still undecided about the future so the site is still looking to close around the 19th of October 2018.
    So if you want your freebies etc etc, please grab them now.

    The nice people at fantasy attic are doing really well with mirroring the freebies, so around the 19th sparkyworld will change links to reflect that.

    Talking of freebies, work on the final ones are progressing well.

    As is the work on the community arts project that your purchases have enabled.
    Just working on the instructions and after the workshop I'll be posting this as a freebie at various sites.

    Plus I'm pleased (for those that know) Mr Benji's op was successful.
    Even the vet managed to keep all his fingers this time, normally you have to wait a few days for them to grow back :)

    For those that don't know, the poor little dude managed to dislocate his kneecap while trying to recreate the scene from the Empire Strikes back where Luke takes out the AT-AT's. AKA chasing a staffi 20 times his size.

    So despite the cone of shame, he's recovering at home being spoilt rotten, and making the cats jealous, with hand fed chicken and other goodies.
    He's even tried to attempt an quick hobble-hop to have a go at the postman.

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