Act Your Age!

[Hornet3d]

Sorry, I sometimes forget there are other countries in the world that have they're own concerns.

No need to apologise, if I have learnt nothing else from these forum I have learnt that our lives are often under the same pressures no matter where we live.

 

[Bonnie2001]

Yep, as I get older my parents get smarter. I know now why they were telling me the stuff were trying to get me to understand.

That's because people turn into their parents, at least that's what my gran tells me.

 

[Satira Capriccio]

I haven't yet turned into either my father or my mother. Although ... I've always been as stubborn as my father. though nowhere near as opinionated.

Then again ... my interests have never been those of the rest of my family. They were and are all involved in sports, and I have little to no interest in sports. I was rather disappointed when the Eagles won the Superbowl ... simply because it resulted in two hours of constant horn honking as cars repeatedly drove past my apartment (sometimes it sucks to live in an area dominated by a college campus). It also resulted in my commute being affected all week as they closed streets and prepared for the parade celebrating the Eagles "Once in a lifetime" Superbowl win. On the plus side ... since the City municipal offices were closed Thursday ... so were we!

 

[eclark1894]

That's because people turn into their parents, at least that's what my gran tells me.

Not always. Some kids learn from their parents mistakes and some kids think they know better. Which side you come down on usually depends on what kind of relationship you had with your parents.

 

[Faery_Light]

In our family we learned to think for ourself.
As a result there were differences in politics and religion.
But we never argued over it, always respected the other person's point of view.
We still have an odd assortment of views on everything in our family.

Mom lived two months past her 90th birthday even with stage 4 colon cancer.
I hope I can be as strong as she was even if I become wheelchair bound like her.
She also lost her sight but never her strength to fight.

Her family did not have diabetes running in it, that came from my dad's side.

I never gave age a thought until one day years ago someone remarked that I did not look my age, 60 years old.
Their guess was mid to late forties, I always was a baby face.
Now my body reminds me that I'm no spring chicken.

 

[quietrob]

That's because people turn into their parents, at least that's what my gran tells me.

And that means there is a good chance you turn into her. Watch your folks and grandfolks caefully. A lot of times, how they go...so go you.

 

[Bonnie2001]

....A lot of times, how they go...so go you.

That's probably why the planet Earth is doomed.

 

[eclark1894]

That's probably why the planet Earth is doomed.

The Earth will be fine. Humans are screwed.

 

[quietrob]

That's probably why the planet Earth is doomed.

 

[Ken1171]

Sounds like I am the baby here - I am only 5o. Haha

That's because people turn into their parents, at least that's what my gran tells me.

My mom was of Russian descent, and quite the communist activist in the 60s. She has brainwashed me from childhood about how great communism was, but as I grew up, I started to deeply resent everything related to it, as soon as I could think on my own. Nowadays I am strongly against communism/socialism, so I suppose I have become the opposite of my mother and her parents.

My dad is Japanese and carries his baggage of socialism, but it's somehow counterbalanced by Shinto-Buddhism, which keeps it from going to extremes. I grew up mirroring his Shinto-Buddhist values, the life philosophy - not the religion. He's not a religious person. For a long time I tried to follow his steps, but he is quite a distant person - we barely talked. When I was 17 I left home and never came back. I have left Japan and my family behind. It was very hard living in another country without family. For better or worse, I have become myself, in spite of what my parents were (or wanted me to be).

So I guess it's like eclark1894 has said - it depends on your relationship with your parents. I basically had none.

 

[Terre]

So I guess it's like eclark1894 has said - it depends on your relationship with your parents. I basically had none.

I can understand that. My dad was transferred to Korea when I turned 9 and both parents felt my mother , brother and i should stay in the US for educational reasons. When he was supposed to come home 2 years later she filed for divorce so I had to grow up with a distant/part time father and a mother that felt she had to give my little brother "extra attention because you are your father's favorite" so I was raised by a woman who was a friend but nothing more. Result is I think for myself and have very different politics from my mother and strong overlaps with my dad. I do have a relationship with her but it's one of friends who like to do some things together.

 

[sapat]

I will be 67 end of this August, and because of my severe back and Rt hip pain I use a cane to get around cuz it hurts to put full weight on my Rt leg. So I feel every bit of 66 physically. I just got to the point where I stopped using that little scooter at the grocery store! I take 14 pills in the morning, 5 pills around 6pm and then 3 pills at bedtime. Yikes. I saw my cardiologist yesterday so I fasted and didn't take any of my pills, and by this morning my pressure was 185/80 and my pulse 70. Normally my pressure is the low 120's over 70 and my pulse is never over 52. I felt like crap. Husband said, 'when was the last time you took your meds'. I remembered then I forgot to take them after my dr appt yesterday (Friday) so I hadn't taken them since Thursday. My body had already started to decompensate. I realize now how dependent on them I am to be here.
But my spirit fights it every day and I keep 'young' in my mind with my 3D stuff and in other ways. So I guess even where the body can't, the mind can!

 

[JOdel]

"Act your age!" was one of Ma's fairly characteristic snarls.
Usually whenever I was showing some degree of enthusiasm for something, and usually one of the last signals before getting hit.

To this day, I am convinced that what she really meant was; act *her* age.

I was all of about ten, for ghods sake.

 

[Ken1171]

I can understand that. My dad was transferred to Korea when I turned 9 and both parents felt my mother , brother and i should stay in the US for educational reasons. When he was supposed to come home 2 years later she filed for divorce so I had to grow up with a distant/part time father and a mother that felt she had to give my little brother "extra attention because you are your father's favorite" so I was raised by a woman who was a friend but nothing more. Result is I think for myself and have very different politics from my mother and strong overlaps with my dad. I do have a relationship with her but it's one of friends who like to do some things together.

In my case, it was I who left, not just the family, but the country. My mom had an aggravated case of bipolar disorder, which by then nobody knew it was a mental pathology. Things got to a point to encourage a teenager boy to go live alone at the other side of the planet, which was barely far enough to be bearable. It was easier to be alone in another country than to be home with your parents. We barely talked for the next 30 years, with an occasional phone call on my birthday. Things could had been so much better if we knew what bipolar disorder was back in the day, but even after she was diagnosed, that was too late - the family was already shattered beyond repair.

Since then, I have met other families that were destroyed by bipolar syndrome, which seems to be way more widespread than I first imagined, and they mostly had the same story as mine. They didn't know it was a mental disorder until it was too late.

 

[Terre]

Since then, I have met other families that were destroyed by bipolar syndrome, which seems to be way more widespread than I first imagined, and they mostly had the same story as mine. They didn't know it was a mental disorder until it was too late.

That situation makes it sadder to me. It does explain why you had to run instead of simply disagree. At least now a lot of people are being helped.

 

[Faery_Light]

I fully understand bi-polar, my son had it and it is hard to deal with.
I had a good relationship with my Mom, we were alike on many things but I am more open minded than she was.
We never let differences in our opinions on things make a difference in our relationship to each other.
I can honestly say she was loved and admired very much by all her children and grandchildren.
If I'm a lot like her, I don't mind at all.

 

[AlphinaNovaStar]

Sounds like I am the baby here - I am only 5o. Haha



My mom was of Russian descent, and quite the communist activist in the 60s. She has brainwashed me from childhood about how great communism was, but as I grew up, I started to deeply resent everything related to it, as soon as I could think on my own. Nowadays I am strongly against communism/socialism, so I suppose I have become the opposite of my mother and her parents.

My dad is Japanese and carries his baggage of socialism, but it's somehow counterbalanced by Shinto-Buddhism, which keeps it from going to extremes. I grew up mirroring his Shinto-Buddhist values, the life philosophy - not the religion. He's not a religious person. For a long time I tried to follow his steps, but he is quite a distant person - we barely talked. When I was 17 I left home and never came back. I have left Japan and my family behind. It was very hard living in another country without family. For better or worse, I have become myself, in spite of what my parents were (or wanted me to be).

So I guess it's like eclark1894 has said - it depends on your relationship with your parents. I basically had none.

I will not be fifty for about, um, 15 years, two months and five days. Oh dear.

 

[eclark1894]

I will tell anyone younger than 50 this important piece of advice. I wish someone had not just told me, but made me understand. A lot of the choices we make in our life when we are younger seem to have no bad repercussions, and as a result, we start thinking we're invincible. I'm watching my nephew scarf down all these hamburgers and fried chicken dinners. I honestly can't remember the last time I saw him eat a vegetable or anything green. Unless you count French Fries. But here's the thing. As you're driving down the road of life, sooner or later you have to do something to maintain the vehicle, or a the very least prepare for emergencies, or there's a very good chance you make not make it to your destination. But if you're a science buff, remember the Newton's law: For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. Put another way, for every action, there is a consequence. You may not see it at first and you may not feel it for years to come, but over time, that bill will come due. Put something aside now while you're healthy young and well, to pay that bill later.

And now, the Reverend has left the pulpit.

 

[sapat]

I will tell anyone younger than 50 this important piece of advice. I wish someone had not just told me, but made me understand. A lot of the choices we make in our life when we are younger seem to have no bad repercussions, and as a result, we start thinking we're invincible. I'm watching my nephew scarf down all these hamburgers and fried chicken dinners. I honestly can't remember the last time I saw him eat a vegetable or anything green. Unless you count French Fries. But here's the thing. As you're driving down the road of life, sooner or later you have to do something to maintain the vehicle, or a the very least prepare for emergencies, or there's a very good chance you make not make it to your destination. But if you're a science buff, remember the Newton's law: For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. Put another way, for every action, there is a consequence. You may not see it at first and you may not feel it for years to come, but over time, that bill will come due. Put something aside now while you're healthy young and well, to pay that bill later.

And now, the Reverend has left the pulpit.

Not preachy at all. Just true and sensible advice. One I learned late in my life, but am working on now.

 

[Hornet3d]

Sounds like I am the baby here - I am only 5o. Haha



My mom was of Russian descent, and quite the communist activist in the 60s. She has brainwashed me from childhood about how great communism was, but as I grew up, I started to deeply resent everything related to it, as soon as I could think on my own. Nowadays I am strongly against communism/socialism, so I suppose I have become the opposite of my mother and her parents.

My dad is Japanese and carries his baggage of socialism, but it's somehow counterbalanced by Shinto-Buddhism, which keeps it from going to extremes. I grew up mirroring his Shinto-Buddhist values, the life philosophy - not the religion. He's not a religious person. For a long time I tried to follow his steps, but he is quite a distant person - we barely talked. When I was 17 I left home and never came back. I have left Japan and my family behind. It was very hard living in another country without family. For better or worse, I have become myself, in spite of what my parents were (or wanted me to be).

So I guess it's like eclark1894 has said - it depends on your relationship with your parents. I basically had none.

Not the sort of post it seems appropriate to like as it is so sad. I am glad you made it through but having had a fairly good relationship with my parents I do feel sad you missed out on something that can be special but pleased you found yourself, not everyone achieves that.