The Anchorage, Part 3

[Seliah (Childe of Fyre)]

Aftermorning

Had a good long sleep, woke to find my visitor disappeared into the morn I quite like that, means I don't need to be sociable before coffee maybe I can persuade everyone to do that!

Maybe it's a GOOD thing we live on opposite ends of the planet, Lorraine! We'd either both be stumbling around the house without so much as a look at each other pre-coffee, or we'd be biting each other's heads off for the other one's "nerve" to be breathing the same air prior to coffee...

And I will be online at least for a little while tonight. Working on a couple of things for 3D, and a non-3D thing as well. Have to be out again early in the morning though, so I am really going to TRY and make myself sleep tonight... somehow, at some point!!

I swear, I never thought someone like me would ever, EVER be working on something like this for a *church*... the irony of this situation is very strong - and very amusing at the moment.

So, I won't be on much tomorrow, as I have to fetch a bunch of photos and stuff from these folks in order to do what they need done. But hopefully tonight, I can at least finish up the reset poses for the Gen3's and possibly the overlays.

Mmmm...sounds good Lorraine. I just finished a wonderful fry up cooked for me by my wonderful husband. So I'm having a very lazy start to the day. Which is definitely the way to go...

You are very lucky, Pen! My Bear is not even allowed to touch my stove... the man literally burnt PASTA. And not just burned, but "have to throw the pot away!" charred it. LMAO

Sounds like you had a good morning, though. That's very sweet of him to do.

 

[Terre]

Good aftermorning.

 

[Pendraia]

lol...people often say that to me when they find out how much he does around the house.

I always have the policy though that if you don't know how to do something obviously you need to practice more. I've seen things burnt but as he is the one who sorts the dishes generally I see that as his problem if he burns something. All my kids, male and female have learnt to cook and can cook as well as if not better than me. They certainly get more practice as I pay them to cook. I work fulltime and see this stuff as being everyone in the houses responsibility.

Morning Terre...

 

[Seliah (Childe of Fyre)]

I always have the policy though that if you don't know how to do something obviously you need to practice more. I've seen things burnt but as he is the one who sorts the dishes generally I see that as his problem if he burns something. All my kids, male and female have learnt to cook and can cook as well as if not better than me. They certainly get more practice as I pay them to cook. I work fulltime and see this stuff as being everyone in the houses responsibility.

I fully agree with you in theory, Pen. I really do. I have tried and tried and tried and tried for 18 years to teach this man to cook, and it just has not worked. His mother really dropped the ball on that subject. But his parents... eh. My in-laws live in a whole different world, and it's not the same world that the rest of the planet lives on, I'll just leave it at that.

My Bear does help out around here, but cooking is just not something he's ever really gotten a handle on. He can handle hot dogs, coffee, toast and that's really about it. (And it's more than he could do when I first married him!) Barely even handles a dang microwave.

My daughter on the other hand, I started her in the kitchen by the time she was three or four years old, just doing little stuff and then slowly branching out from there. Nowadays, we have basically a joint kitchen, and there are times in market where it's quite funny as the two of us will go back and forth occasionally about whether or not we have a particular item in the house or if we need to buy it. It has at times provided some comic relief for people passing by us. LOL

 

[Pendraia]

Sounds good Seliah...I guess that I'm really lucky as my husband had lived away from home for 10 years before we got together and he was pretty much house trained and I mean that in the nicest possible way! lol He cooks, does the dishes, washes the clothes(he is so much more careful with this than I am.) and is generally just wonderful. Having lived on his own helped I think...

 

[Seliah (Childe of Fyre)]

Oh, I think that probably helped a LOT.

We were only 18 when we married, so we both really were still kids, and I'm sure that's part of the reason things went the way they did for us. Mine will do some basic household chores if I growl at him to, or bark at him. He won't do it of his own volition, and he won't do it without being asked to/told to. But usually I only have to ask/tell once. He knows it's not a good idea to make me repeat myself.

He's a good man. I love him to bits. But yeah, there are times where it's like he's still stuck in the highschool/teenage boy mindset, even at 37 years old. LMAO

Then again, sometimes I think that's Nature's way of making up for how fast us girls grow up.

 

[Pendraia]

Maybe...

 

[Lorraine]

Why, why WHY did I not get an alert for this!!!

Anyways, good aftermorning, and a gloomy one it is too. It rained most of yesterday, and has thick cloud today. Blah!

My ex was a non-housework person too, Seliah, that was 'woman's work'. He never changed a nappy, dried a dish, washed any clothes, and I even had to mow the lawns around the house, do all the gardening around the house and wash my own car. When we separated, life did not change much for me except being able to do what I wanted, when I wanted and not having a non-sociable, non-talking man in my space.

 

[jan19]

My first husband was like that, Lorraine. I got lucky with my second...he definitely did his share of housework. I miss my "real" husband a lot...not the first fake one though. ;-)

Hi, all. Sorry my participation is sporadic. I don't have the energy that I once had. Dunno what it is...Dolly is sleeping thru the night now. All I can figure is, this last winter was one rough winter, and I'm still recovering.

I'll be glad when I'm strong again. Seeing all the beautiful things everyone's making is giving me the itch to make something, too.

Hope you all have a lovely day/night, whatever it is where you are.

 

[Lorraine]

Hi Jan, lovely to see you and you be as sporadic as you need to. I hope the winter chills lift and you and Dolly can enjoy the milder weather. I am pleased she is sleeping through the night for you. Wow, maybe your first was related to my only. I was never game to have another go...the one and only put paid to that. So nice you met someone true and real and had a good marriage with him. He must have been a real keeper

 

[Pendraia]

Hi Jan...lovely to see you whenever you are able to...hope you're feeling better soon.

 

[Terre]

Good morning.

Jan, I too hope you feel better soon and understand being sporadic. It sounds like your second husband was a lot like mine is. I got lucky and got found by the right man the first time.

 

[Lorraine]

Morning, Terre It's nice to hear you found yours the first time...my sister did too and it's lovely to see the love they have for each other.

 

[jan19]

Thanks, you all, for the well wishes. I hope you have a great day.

So this is weird. This morning, I got an email that looked like it was from me, to me, entitled Document 2. Since I didn't send myself an email entitled Document 2, I prudently did not open the thing.

Did anything like that happen to anyone else?

 

[jan19]

Looks like it was an email spoof. The messages didn't come from my actual account.

 

[Seliah (Childe of Fyre)]

Thanks, you all, for the well wishes. I hope you have a great day.

So this is weird. This morning, I got an email that looked like it was from me, to me, entitled Document 2. Since I didn't send myself an email entitled Document 2, I prudently did not open the thing.

Did anything like that happen to anyone else?

Email spoof. Someone is making it look like spam emails are coming from you. They've been doing this to my email for YEARS, and as far as I know, there is absolutely NO way to stop it...

 

[Seliah (Childe of Fyre)]

Looks like it was an email spoof. The messages didn't come from my actual account.

...oops. that's what I get for replying before I finish reading the new posts. LOL

 

[jan19]

Email spoof. Someone is making it look like spam emails are coming from you. They've been doing this to my email for YEARS, and as far as I know, there is absolutely NO way to stop it...

Thank you, Seliah! I'm sorry that's happened to you, but glad I'm not the only one. I was thinking, "now where did I put my email address that I should not have?" I guess the answer is nowhere -- from reading, it seems that these spammers get emails off lists that they buy (what a waste of money). Unless it was someone I know, but I honestly don't think I know anyone stupid enough to waste their time with spoofing emails.

Anyway, that's the first time my email's been spoofed, I think, so it was a new experience.

Thanks again -- I did report it all to my ISP, for whatever good that does. If I'd had wit about me, I could've tried to find the sender's IP address. But I didn't want to chance opening the thing, so deleted it pretty quickly.

 

[Seliah (Childe of Fyre)]

They also will canvass forums for emails... and websites... what they do is they make it look like it's coming from your email, but if one were to expand the header information and get all of the specifics from the header, they would see that the *actual* email address is something else completely.

So in the meantime, I get yelled at and accused of sending spam, when all people have to do is check the dang header and they'd see it's not from me. Every so often I have to stick a notice out somewhere reminding folks that if there is a spammy email with my name attached, it DID NOT come from me and that NO my email was NOT hacked. They need to just delete the dang thing and stop yelling at me about it, because there's not a dang thing I can do about it. I've had both my hotmail address AND my website address spoofed. I've done the whole ISP contact thing, traced back the ISP on a couple of the spam emails... there's basically nothing they can do about it.

There was ONE exception, and that was a spammer who was using the Cambridge university student email account to do all of this. I quite happily contacted the university and sent them all of the IP and traceroute data to let them know what was being done with their system... they thanked me for it and pretty much said that the particular student would be losing his or her school account priviledges where it came to the student emails and such.

But that's the only time I've ever actually been able to get anything concrete done about it. Once it starts, it's basically impossible to stop. I don't know of any way to actually stop it, unfortunately.

 

[jan19]

They also will canvass forums for emails... and websites... what they do is they make it look like it's coming from your email, but if one were to expand the header information and get all of the specifics from the header, they would see that the *actual* email address is something else completely.

So in the meantime, I get yelled at and accused of sending spam, when all people have to do is check the dang header and they'd see it's not from me. Every so often I have to stick a notice out somewhere reminding folks that if there is a spammy email with my name attached, it DID NOT come from me and that NO my email was NOT hacked. They need to just delete the dang thing and stop yelling at me about it, because there's not a dang thing I can do about it. I've had both my hotmail address AND my website address spoofed. I've done the whole ISP contact thing, traced back the ISP on a couple of the spam emails... there's basically nothing they can do about it.

There was ONE exception, and that was a spammer who was using the Cambridge university student email account to do all of this. I quite happily contacted the university and sent them all of the IP and traceroute data to let them know what was being done with their system... they thanked me for it and pretty much said that the particular student would be losing his or her school account priviledges where it came to the student emails and such.

But that's the only time I've ever actually been able to get anything concrete done about it. Once it starts, it's basically impossible to stop. I don't know of any way to actually stop it, unfortunately.

That's why I posted this note here. The spammer didn't get into my account, so no access to my contacts. But in case my forum friends happened to be spammed, with that fake thing, I wanted them to know it wasn't me. I probably should've started a new thread about it, but I didn't want to cause a lot of commotion. Hopefully, people read new posts.

Yes, next time I will see if I can expand the header and see where the spammy email came from.

University kids spamming. Their professors need to give them more to do. ;-)

Thanks again -- your post stopped me from fretting. You're right, there's basically nothing we can do about it. But if any of you good folks get spammed, I promise, I did not do it.

Much love.